Boundaries Can Work

I really think it’s finally sinking in! Yes, boundaries do work if you don’t give up. I have been trying for so long to get my son to stop badgering me when I say I can’t do something for him. Recently it’s been watching his kids. Every day it’s another request and another outburst when

Recovery Doesn’t Equal Peace

I am finding that although my son is in recovery, many of his personality traits still reflect his drug use. He is very selfish, he only wants from others and isn’t giving. Everything he does has a motive behind it. He still tries to make others feel guilty and always has a million excuses. So

Sunshine on a Cloudy Day

Recently I saw a post that gave me a new perspective on judging how my day, week or month is going. Instead of measuring your success by the chores or job you completed try measuring it by how you touched other peoples lives. How many smiles did you share? How many kind words did you

Being bored is part of life

It’s easy to see how recovery can be hard. There are days that are hard for me and I’m not fighting relapsing. Life can be boring. It isn’t always exciting, busy and fun. That’s a hard thing for me so how much harder is it for someone in recovery. I like to be doing things,

Is Prison Healing?

Hebrews 13:3 New International Version (NIV) 3 Continue to remember those in prison as if you were together with them in prison, and those who are mistreated as if you yourselves were suffering. As together with them – Feel for them as you would wish others to feel for you were you in their circumstances, knowing

Repost – 7 Tips For Mothers of Addicts

I am always looking for articles to give me guidance during times of stress and I came across this one to share with you. I hope you can gain something from this article by Suzanne Degges-White, PHD Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D. Lifetime Connections 7 Tips for Mothers of Adult Addicts Parenting adult children who abuse substances,

Family Love, Family First

Holidays can be both fun and stressful. Which was yours? I hope you were able to find a little bit of peace and relaxation for yourself. I was blessed to have all 3 of my children home and to share the day with friends and family. It was wonderful to see the little ones playing

Repost -The Guardian, Russell Brand

https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2012/aug/12/russell-brand-methadone-treating-heroin-addicts   Russell Brand: methadone is a bad way to treat heroin addicts Comedian backs abstinence as route to recovery Russell Brand has no compunction about calling himself a junkie. “When it comes to the disease of addiction I’m no different from any other addict,” he says. The 37-year-old comedian was hooked on heroin during

Listening is Good Medicine

Sometimes you just need to get the opinion of someone removed from the situation to assure yourself that what you are doing is the right thing to do. It doesn’t mean you’re weak, crazy or nuts, it just means you need a little support. When you are constantly giving to everyone else it is important

The littlest Victims of Addiction

There has to be a better way to help babies born with addictions to opiods. My grandson was born 6 days ago and has been in the NICU since Tuesday night. His mother and my son are both being treated with methadone, good for them but not so good for this little guy. He was

Life Begins Again

Wow! And life begins again. Today my son and fiance had a little baby boy. He was only 4lbs 14 1/2 oz. Just a little peanut. This family has been the inspiration my son has needed to stay clean. Right now this is enough. He has a 2 year old, a newborn and a 8

Gaslighting

Have you ever heard of Gaslighting? I hadn’t until yesterday when someone posted an instagram photo about it. Honestly I had no idea and guess what? It’s been done to me. I always knew something was wrong, I knew I didn’t imagine things and I knew what I said but I was told I was

Defying Manipulation

The only time he calls is when he needs something from me. This morning I did not respond to his text message of “call me”. Why should I? It’s so frustrating. I would love if he called or texted and just said, “Hey Mom, just checking in, hope everything is ok, can I do anything

Definition of Relapse

This week we lost a close friend of the family. It wasn’t from an overdose or a car accident. It was from untreated and unknown stage 4 cancer. Our friend went into the hospital 2 weeks ago and found out how sick she was and she’s now gone. Life just isn’t fair sometimes. She was