Fighting the Labels and Stigma of Addiction

  I find myself talking about the bad things that happen because of my son’s addiction. I talk about lying, stealing, yelling, homelessness, selfishness and so much more but there is also the part of my son that is good. The part that loves his family, the part of him that wants to stay sober,

Simple Moments

We had a great night with both of our granddaughters. We took them to a local carnival. One is our son’s and the other is our daughter’s, both are expecting new little ones in September and October. These two are 3 + 2 years old. I get to spend alot of time with the 3

Our Son is in Recovery

Our son is in recovery, he has to my best estimate, 12 months clean. I know that he relapsed last June when my Father, his grandfather, passed away. He has made a lot of changes in this past year, some good and some not as good. He found out last June that he had a

Holidays can make me Sad

Did you ever get upset because there was an upcoming holiday and your son or daughter was going to be missing? Or maybe you have your whole family together and you insist that there’s a family photo taken? Did you ever think, what if this is the last time I can get this photo or

Why Am I Afraid

I read something today that really hit home to me. I started thinking about what I am afraid of. The truth is I think I’m most afraid of letting my children down, any of them, not just my son who is an addict. I think I want to do everything I can to be there

Other Family Members Part 1

I know that I’ve been primarily writing about my son but there are other things that go on in my life as well. Just as everyone has multiple things going on all the time. Sometimes they overlap and sometimes they do not. As the Mother of three I am surrounded by three different life stories

Opinions of others

There are so many days that give me mixed feelings. Sometimes I’m blindsided by things that happen but it’s always living in a constant state of stress and anxiety. I feel like I’m always on the edge. Always waiting for the next catastrophe. I’m lucky to have a way to express how I’m feeling and

Family Ties

I must say that even after all that we’ve been through as a family I am amazed and proud of how we have stuck together. Even when the girls were mad at their brother they may have expressed their disapproval with our choices but it hasn’t hurt our relationship with them. Being able to talk

A Balancing Act living with an Addict

I was thinking about how we manage to be there for each of our children when an addict takes up so much of our time, thoughts and actions. It makes me feel guilty sometimes that so much of my thoughts are about how we can help him without enabling, should we do this, should we

Do you Hear What I Hear

When you talk to your loved one what do you hear? Do you hear positive messages or are they depressed and negative about their lives? We need to be aware of their moods, as we need to be aware of our own. Of course each day will be different but their overall frame of mind

A Message of Hope

I know we all wonder if we somehow did something to contribute to our child’s addiction. I know I think in my head, what could I have done differently? As a parent we feel as though raising our children into responsible adults is our job and the first thing that comes to mind is how

Great Recovery Resource Link

I have a wonderful resource for all of you to try out. This website will get you all the programs available in your area just by entering your zip code. What an amazing way to have everything right at your fingertips http://about.auntbertha.com/ Please give this a try. It was given to Drug Court professionals all

Let’s be Honest

Let’s be honest about our feelings. It’s really hard to love someone who doesn’t act like they love or care about you. We all had a vision of what our family would be like. It sure wasn’t like this. We never dreamed that our sweet adorable children would grow up to be drug addicts, to

The issue is Trust

To me one of the biggest issues I have with my son is trust. He is just so good at weaving a story that he makes you want to believe him, sometimes even making you feel like you are crazy. He can twist anything around to suit his needs and make you feel guilty for