Peacefulness in the Midst of a Storm
Peacefulness in the midst of a storm. Detachment brings inner peace.
That is my mantra. I am working so very hard to keep a sense of peace around me while holding onto my boundaries. Is it easy? Absolutely not. Is it worth it? 100%.
I don’t know when I made this breakthrough or how it came about. It all started in September when I went and confronted my son, I had been pushed far enough. I still am amazed and proud of the strength I had that day and each day since then. I am once again in control of my life. I know what I want and I am not afraid to express it. Life is too short to allow yourself to be held back by fear. Letting go has been amazing.
When I talk to my son it seems different. There is no yelling, no hanging up and it seems there is a little respect. It seems like he is comprehending and understanding my boundaries. I am aware when he lies to me and guess what? That is his problem not mine. I am no longer being sucked into his drama. I am aware of much more then he thinks I am so I am not being fooled or manipulated.
He has begun to repair his relationships with his sisters. This is all happening without my fixing or trying to make it better. It is making my heart happy. Family is so important to me and all my children are aware of that.
Since I am healing from my codependency, letting go has reaped profound benefits, not only in the relationship, but in personal growth, inner peace, and all areas of your life.
Whatever or whomever you’re reacting to or trying to fix or control, controls you. When you stop managing, judging, or helping someone else, your mind is free from worry. You’re off the hook for their choices and the outcome of their problems. You’re freer to be yourself, and you allow others to do so as well. And it feels amazing!
Since I’ve the step of learning to let go of my reactions and are able to detach from other people’s moods, actions, and words, I have taken back my own power. Instead of a reactor, I have become a self‐determined actor in my own life. I am taking charge of myself and my thoughts and only I get to decide how I will act in that moment and every moment. I am able to choose your behavior independently of others. This has allowed my mind to be at peace.
https://jessicajordana.com/taking-a-step-back-could-be-the-best-way-forward/
The above link is a personal experience of letting go and how it can benefit you. Take a look inside yourself and see if this helps you remembering this did not happen overnight. It has taken me years to get where I current am today.
